tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454081815232016436.post7207130991131620075..comments2023-06-06T09:02:02.440-05:00Comments on Liz's World: Random, Rambling Thoughts on MotherhoodLizhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01606570803094936934noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454081815232016436.post-38630021531192302382010-12-05T17:18:18.000-06:002010-12-05T17:18:18.000-06:00Great post, I am almost 100% in agreement with you...Great post, I am almost 100% in agreement with youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454081815232016436.post-40839258106335217792010-12-04T16:17:42.009-06:002010-12-04T16:17:42.009-06:00Good evening
Awesome blog, great write up, thank ...Good evening<br /><br />Awesome blog, great write up, thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454081815232016436.post-81976919628574508272009-08-26T13:47:42.437-05:002009-08-26T13:47:42.437-05:00Okay, first of all, big big kudos to you for this ...Okay, first of all, big big kudos to you for this post. And not only for the post, but for having an open mind and readily admitting that you changed your opinions. Thank you.<br /><br />This whole topic is a somewhat sore spot for me. I actually already wrote one semi-upset comment on a blog today, because a single mom bloggy friend of mine had a SAHM at her church ask her "what she was doing to her daughter" by sending her to daycare because she keeps getting sick. How mean. <br /><br />So, let me just explain that my sensitivity to this topic is based on 2 issues. First of all, I am jealous of those who get to stay home. I wanted to do it and I still want to do it, but we just can't. I know you and I and Larry and I discussed all this when I was trying to make a decision last year. I know that you felt that I really did have a choice, but in my reality, I don't. No, I'm not willing to go back and live in an apartment or lose a car and things like that. But there are things that I want for my child, want for my family, things that Dave wants that he didn't have growing up (like a HOUSE with a YARD). So others can think that's my choice if they want. I still don't feel like I had one. I truly am jealous of moms that can still have all of the "stuff" and still be at home. That will never be us.<br /><br />Secondly, I really have an issue with the self-righteous, superior attitude that SOME, not all, SAHM's give the rest of us. Like those of us who work are less than them, love our kids less, care less, are less dedicated. That makes me sick. Example - yesterday, a childhood friend of mine posted on FB that she was considering a career change. She is pregnant. The number of comments she got that were something to the effect of "Well, you ought to be considering a career change as a MOM" were staggering and it was really upsetting to me. She will be a mom! And I'm a mom! I hate that attitude so much!!! We don't all have the option! And the things that these women say only feed the guilt that "the rest of us" have about what we are doing. Even if I loved my job, I would still feel guilty about being there instead of with my daughter. I think it's inherent. It feels like you're a FT worker and a PT mom. I hate that. But I don't need anyone to make me feel worse than I already do.<br /><br />I am eternally thankful for my mom who stayed at home with us and even homeschooled us (and now keeps Brooklyn for us!!). But her reality and my parents' income is not ours. And in retrospect, I needed to go back to work because I had no idea what God had in store for us with Brooklyn and her little body, and we needed my income and my insurance to take care of her medical problems (and still do).<br /><br />You can give me my trophy for longest comment ever now :)Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09319187009235224171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454081815232016436.post-74956087471795365592009-08-26T08:53:48.348-05:002009-08-26T08:53:48.348-05:00I just loved reading about your metamorphis of opi...I just loved reading about your metamorphis of opinions. Since my 2 angels have come to live with me at my ripe age, I feel that strong tug of wanting to be home and available to them. I feel that tug of my heart, wanting to be able to do school things with them and be able to be home when they get out of school or with them when they are sick without a guilty feeling that I am cheating my place of work. But God willing, I can retire in 4 years, just in time for the oldest becoming a teenager and definately needing someone to be there....So So So looking forward to that time..If God should continue to give me good health and the stamina to keep up....I am blest beyond measure....and you have precious treasures in your children. I know you treasure each day you have with them. Granny JordanSandy Jnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454081815232016436.post-66702545665637660752009-08-26T05:27:17.851-05:002009-08-26T05:27:17.851-05:00I think we as women have to make the right decisio...I think we as women have to make the right decisions for our families. Some women need to work to stay sane :) Some people like me are so stressed trying to work and be a mom. But now that my kids are getting older and starting to move out I wish I had had something to focus on all these years besides the kids. Because they move on and leave you home with nothing to do. So that is my reason for going back to work. It sure is hard and I don't know that I would have ever handled this when they were little. I have learned in life to NEVER say the word I will Never do....lolSandyLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03055096417542595965noreply@blogger.com