4 years ago
Monday, September 13, 2010
Most confusing bad Christian advice?
Having grown up in the Church my entire life, I've heard all sorts of bad "wisdom" from well meaning people. But one of those tidbits of wisdom in particular always stands out to me. I'm curious if you, too, have been on the receiving end of some of this kind of thing. You know the stuff I'm talking about. The pat answers, the blanket statements that people make with good intentions but things they obviously have never really thought through.
For me it is this one: "God will never give you more than you can handle."
Oh puh-leaze! Yes He will! If we could handle everything on our own, why would we need Him? If we have everything under control, that means HE is not such a big God after all. If we could handle everything, why haven't we (general we) gotten famine, poverty, hunger, AIDS, cancer, orphans (I could go on & on...) handled? Of course He gives us more than we can handle! He wants us to rely on Him and Him ALONE -- NOT on ourselves!
I'm sure that somewhere along the way, someone took 1 Corinthians 10:13 and got the meaning all screwed up. It's an easy path from one meaning to the other. Sort of. But really, please do not tell someone who is suffering through a horrible time or a loss of some kind that God will never give them more than they can handle. Good grief. They would feel like a tiny person if they couldn't figure out a way to handle the situation they're in.
What is the appropriate statement instead? How about "He is walking through this with you." or "Trust in Him." or "Keep your eyes focused on Him. He'll get you through this." Or how about pointing them to Scriptures like these from Psalm 139 that point out God's presence no matter what we're going through or where we are?
7 Where can I go from your Spirit?
Where can I flee from your presence?
8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, "Surely the darkness will hide me
and the light become night around me,"
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you.
So tell me......what is your "pet peeve" of bad Christian advice?